This test was adapted from The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate by Gary Chapman. There are two statements beside each question in the list below.┬áSelect the statement that best describes how you feel towards your spouse. When you are finished, click the button at the bottom labeled “Submit”.

1.
I like it when you give me notes of affirmation.
I like it when you hug me.
2.
I like to spend one-on-one time with you.
I feel loved when you give practical help to me.
3.
I like it when you give me gifts.
I like taking long walks with you.
4.
I feel loved when you do things to help me.
I feel loved when you touch me.
5.
I feel loved when you hold me in your arms.
I feel loved when I receive a gift from you.
6.
I like to go places with you.
I like to hold hands with you.
7.
Visible symbols of love (gifts) are very important to me.
I feel loved when you affirm me.
8.
I like to sit close to you.
I like for you to tell me I am attractive/handsome.
9.
I like to spend time with you.
I like to receive little gifts from you.
10.
Your words of acceptance are important to me.
I know you love me when you help me.
11.
I like to be together when we do things.
I like it when you say kind words to me.
12.
What you do affects me more than what you say.
I feel whole when we hug.
13.
I value your praise and try to avoid your criticism.
Several inexpensive gifts from you mean more to me than one large gift.
14.
I feel close when we are talking or doing something together.
I feel closer to you when you touch me often.
15.
I like it when you compliment my achievements.
I know you love me when you do things for me that you don’t enjoy doing.
16.
I like for you to touch me when I walk by.
I like it when you listen to me sympathetically.
17.
I feel loved when you help me with my jobs around the house.
I really enjoy receiving gifts from you.
18.
I like for you to compliment my appearance.
I feel loved when you take time to understand my feelings.
19.
I feel secure when you are touching me.
Your acts of service make me feel loved.
20.
I appreciate the many things you do for me.
I like receiving gifts that you make.
21.
I really enjoy the feeling I get when you give me your undivided attention.
I really enjoy the feeling I get when you do some acts of service for me.
22.
I feel loved when you celebrate my birthday with a gift.
I feel loved when you celebrate my birthday with meaningful words.
23.
I know you are thinking of me when you give me a gift.
I feel loved when you help out with my chores.
24.
I appreciate it when you listen to me patiently and don’t interrupt me.
I appreciate it when you remember special days with a gift.
25.
I like to know you are concerned enough to help with my daily tasks.
I enjoy extended trips with you.
26.
Kissing me unexpectedly excites me.
Giving me a gift for no special occasion excites me.
27.
I like to be told that you appreciate me.
I like for you to look at me when we are talking.
28.
Your gifts are always special to me.
I feel good when you are touching me.
29.
I feel loved when you enthusiastically do some task I have requested.
I feel loved when you tell me how much you appreciate me.
30.
I need to be touched every day.
I need your words of affirmation daily.